What does lived in life mean. This is an accomplished person. "Up the ladder of life, or my life values"

“The system constantly pursues the individual and imposes on him a certain role, demonstrating its necessity. And the one who attacks it - be it a schizophrenic or a revolutionary - always belongs to the system.

Large systems throughout history have left no evidence of anyone achieving the largest internal result. They gave birth to heroes, saints, but did not tell what was the strength that became an example for society, vitality, emotional attachments, sublimated ideals of their inner peace. actual error- Approx. I.L. Vikentieva)

If, for example, some saint told that he really felt existential satisfaction, experienced glory, the feeling of achieving success in life. But no. My studies of the psychology of the saints and heroes of the system showed that they were all gripped by the strongest fear. (Antonio Meneghetti not cites any data confirming his thesis - Approx. I.L. Vikentiev).

The subject behaved according to the rules provided by the system as a means of escape, a last internal refuge from the fear of risk. In this case, trying to get rid of it, he goes where others advise, where he is promised peace. In this case, a person rises under the banner of truth, not possessing it, that truth that brings satisfaction. Despite the failure of this approach, the system is unremovable. Forced to rely on what everyone believes, we thus stoop to agreeing with the assertion that the truth is where others point.

Life will not change whether one believes in it, all or no one. When people show themselves, arrange spectacles or participate in the liturgy, they are carried away by the phenomenon, forgetting about the noumenon, the point of origin of life. Not a single line has been written about the lives of accomplished people. (This statement by Antonio Meneghetti is a factual error- Approx. I.L. Vikentieva)

Those who have taken place have never been part of any system whatsoever. The definition of "established" I refer to a person who is infinitely tolerant of any system, since he already knows that any system, as such, impedes the movement of life and, therefore, is a temporary structure, serving those who do not know how to manage themselves.

The accomplished person knows that no system can give what is truth, life: a system does not give strength, it offers a letter, a number, an attitude. The system can indicate what to do, but it cannot be asked: is it true, will it be for the benefit of the individual? When confronted with such a question, any system will annul itself. Even the most sophisticated religion, on the question of self-realization, offers a hope whose realization cannot be demonstrated, thereby inevitably sending the subject back into the realm of faith and forcing him to flee from reality.

An established personality, on the contrary, after learning continues to move forward, guided by evidence and beginning to learn how, where and when life itself manifests itself. The one who constantly strives to avoid the thousand unnecessary roads that call him, constantly rejects all closed systems, leads a lifestyle that is a constant self-affirmation in all areas of existence: if he wants money, he knows how to create a system-appropriate means to achieve his goals; in this sense, he is more accurate than any lawyer, since he is already imprisoned in the system, while an accomplished person knows how to use the “machine”, how to use the very essence, the mind of a stereotype so that it functions for the benefit of the person himself. If he wants recognition, friendship, love, health, he is able to use various systems to receive pleasure.

And pleasure lies for him in independence from all systems; this is not an attack, not a counter-revolution, but the skillful use of system programs.

When a system is non-functional for his individuation, he can annul all systems, as if erasing them from his own mind. An accomplished personality is able to arrive at a certain place, at a certain moment, in a certain simple part of oneself, concentrate in this small space and mediate the whole, mediate many things of both the system and being according to one’s needs.

An accomplished individual does not believe in any system, in any science, not because he rejects them, but because he considers them in relation to the use of the situation, trusting only himself. (A person has the right not to believe in science - very often this leads to eclecticism, shamanistic techniques, etc. - Note by I.L. Vikentiev).

In essence, the realized "I" is able to accept with modest tolerance, with calm indifference, any thing, remaining, on the contrary, extremely attentive to the minimum movements of life. To catch grace and truth in love, in money, in the pleasant use of all these inner and outer feelings, within any of your intellectual journeys - this is the normal practice of the developed "I". He no longer discovers the truth, he knows how to create it. It can also be assumed that the life of successful individuals was described, but due to some internal necessity, the system destroyed these works.

Modern culture, in a certain sense, perpetuates biographies of any level - from the biographies of saints to the biography of Count Dracula, from the hero to Bluebeard. But the description of the life of an accomplished person must be destroyed. This happens for at least two reasons. First, the system, with the help of its codes, will not be able to read such a description, will not understand it and, therefore, will not be able to transmit it further. Secondly, this is done in order to protect the programs of the system. The loss of inner depth, of grace, is explained not by the fact that the system is bad or was preprogrammed that way, but by its internal logic: the system, in the final analysis, represents the logic of the majority, defending the numerical superiority of those who did not become, did not materialize.

Antonio Meneghetti, System and Personality, M., NNBF "Ontopsychology", 2007, p. 105-108.

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Recently, the topics of success and personal growth often stand side by side. This is quite natural. After all, many goals become achievable only under the condition of internal changes. However, it is no secret that behind the desire to succeed is often the desire to realize oneself and take place as a person. For this purpose, numerous psychological techniques are studied, seminars and trainings are attended. To succeed as a person is something more than just to succeed. There are many people who, even having made a dizzying career, still do not dare to confidently say about themselves that they are accomplished individuals. Of course, perception and evaluation of oneself is a subjective thing. But, of course, it is worth thinking about what qualities an accomplished person should have. Courage to be yourself Everyone has certain abilities. Another thing is that not everyone develops them in themselves and uses them. An established personality is characterized by a constant desire to reveal their inclinations. This is not easy, if only because it sometimes takes a lot of courage. But that's the quality...

Recently, the topics of success and personal growth often stand side by side. This is quite natural. After all, many goals become achievable only under the condition of internal changes. However, it is no secret that behind the desire to succeed is often the desire to realize oneself and take place as a person. For this purpose, numerous psychological techniques are studied, seminars and trainings are attended.

Being a person is about more than just being successful. There are many people who, even having made a dizzying career, still do not dare to confidently say about themselves that they are accomplished individuals. Of course, perception and evaluation of oneself is a subjective thing. But, of course, it is worth thinking about what qualities an accomplished person should have.

Courage to be yourself

Everyone has certain abilities. Another thing is that not everyone develops them in themselves and uses them. An established personality is characterized by a constant desire to reveal their inclinations. This is not easy, if only because it sometimes takes a lot of courage. But this is the quality without which it is impossible to take place as a person. The tandem of talent and courage allows you to reveal your best qualities. Self-development becomes the norm of life.

The ability to never lose your face and remain yourself in any situation is extremely important. This requires a high level psychological maturity, which is unthinkable without a stable worldview. A person has a clear system of values, from which he will never give up for the sake of a fleeting benefit. He knows how to resist temptations and limit himself.

Of course, this requires a lot of strength, primarily spiritual. They are given by awareness of their responsibility to the world. A person knows that his personality is a great value. Therefore, he does not close himself only in his own interests, but seeks to leave something behind - something that could make the world a better place. As pretentious as it all sounds, this is how it is.

Endless way

In any case, you will need the ability to live in harmony with yourself and with the universe. In Chinese philosophy, such a concept as Tao is used - the way. An important step in order to take place in the personal plan is to find your own channel, which will lead to that point of balance, where the maximum manifestation of oneself will become possible. This is a difficult process, often even painful. But an accomplished person is not afraid of difficulties, therefore he clearly knows who he is and where he is going.

Inner growth must continue throughout life. That is why it is impossible to become an accomplished person once and for all. Even the allotted earthly term may not be enough for full self-realization. It is unattainable - at any stage of development something more is possible. Mistakes and disappointments are also not excluded. And you will have to constantly overcome difficulties.

A person moves in the chosen direction, tries to achieve as much as possible, knowing that any result will not be ideal. It takes wisdom to understand this, but still go forward. An established personality can boldly face not too cheerful truths. However, for her, the process of improvement itself acquires great value. After all, the essence of earthly searches is continuous movement.

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The greatest difficulties arise when it is necessary to move from the cultural and typological traits of Betancourt's personality to his individuality. What is seen, in the words of Pushkin, "a person's non-general expression"? Specific biographical information about Betancourt is scarce, but still it is possible to point out the main vector of his personality development. Erik Erickson's epigenetic theory provides heuristic opportunities for this.

main idea Erikson is that a person at each age stage is going through a crisis that can be resolved both successfully and unsuccessfully. In the first case, opportunities for personal growth are multiplied, in the second, serious difficulties arise. In childhood, a person is determined in his global attitudes to the world and to himself. Under favorable conditions, a person gains confidence in the world and in himself, becomes active, proactive, disposed to creativity. In case of unsuccessful development, a person fears hostile actions from outside, doubts his abilities, loses activity and initiative, acquires a sense of inferiority. In the “mixed version”, a combination of successful and unsuccessful results of getting out of age crises is created.

According to the memoirs of contemporaries, Betancourt was optimistic, distinguished by kindness and easily made contact with people. It is known that in childhood Betancourt was taught by his father, a lieutenant colonel who knows engineering. Judging by the letter of the 31-year-old Betancourt to his parents, he was happy to share with them both technical ideas and his successes. He writes about the dredge he created, that it is “a machine driven by the wind and used to dehydrate swampy soils. She was very liked by all the hydraulics who saw her, and was tested by them "(B, 25). Here one can clearly feel both affection for parents and spiritual kinship with them. An important aspect of the growth of personal activity is the desire of a person to master cultural "languages": foreign speech, mathematics, dancing, painting, etc. This is laid down in childhood (up to eight years).It is known that already in his early years, Betancourt mastered English and French showed interest in drawing. In his younger years, he attended the drawing class of the Academy of Fine Arts in Madrid. Yes, and to science Betancourt approached with a universal interest: as a mathematician, mechanic, chemist. The range of scientific and technical discoveries of Betancourt is extremely wide: from the creation of a scale for a thermometer to the development of technology for the production of paper for banknotes.

In youthful years important point is a clear definition of oneself as a person (the formation of a sense of identity, self-identity). With successful contact with peers, a clear self-image matures in a person, which ensures the stability of behavioral programs. When one or another weakness of a physical or psychological property is detected, under normal conditions, the compensation mechanism indicated by A. Adler operates. Betancourt was not very tall, which may have disturbed him. But he compensated for this slight omission of nature with sociability and friendliness. Betancourt is a distinct extrovert, he actively seeks contacts with others. Betancourt is like Mozart, his great contemporary. He is full of scientific ideas and generous in their implementation. By nature - cheerful, good-natured, tolerant of people's weaknesses, but not accepting meanness. He is open, communicative, strives to unite people in a common cause. It is curious that he does most of his work in tandem with one of the people suitable for the situation: Betancourt makes his first invention (spinning machine) with his sister; the famous textbook writes with Lanz; improves the watch mechanism together with Breguet; during the construction of the Moscow arena, he collaborates with Beauvais; Arranges the Nizhny Novgorod fair with Montferrand. Betancourt is ready to meet interesting people, to introduce them to each other, to unite them in interesting undertakings. A colorful picture in his memoirs is created by the English engineer Smiles, who knew Betancourt during his stay in London in the late 1880s:

“It happened that Betancourt, on his daily walk, used to walk past Maudsley's little workshop in Wales Street, and, being himself a turner, examined with curiosity the various things that were exhibited from time to time in the window of the young mechanic's workshop. One day such an excellent tap was displayed in the window that Betancourt went into the workshop to ask Maudsley, who he liked very much, and after that he often went into the workshop and asked if there was anything new. Betancourt was also well acquainted with Brinnel, and when he complained to him that he could not find a skilled mechanic who would undertake to build the block machine he had designed, it immediately occurred to Betancourt that Maudsley, in all likelihood, would perform the best possible difficult work, and he immediately told Brinell about the new excellent tools invented by Maudsley to achieve greater accuracy and completeness in the work. Brynnel immediately decided to turn to Maudsley and asked Betancourt to introduce him to him; they went together, and after preliminary negotiations, Brynnel again promised to go to Maudsley's workshop and bring with him the drawings of the proposed model" (B, 32).

Betancourt married at thirty-two. According to the concepts of that time, it was just the right age: when the social position of a man was determined. Let's say Pushkin got married to Natalya Nikolaevna, having about the same age. The choice of Betancourt was caused solely by personal affection for the bride - without striving for any secondary goals. Anna Jordan was not well-born and was a foreigner. Therefore, even the full formalization of the Betancourt family relations proceeded with difficulties: Betancourt received permission from the Spanish authorities to marry only seven years (!) After the wedding. But the independence and independence of Betancourt's choice are also manifested in this. With a high degree of probability, it can be argued that Anna had a difficult character. The bilious Vigel speaks of all members of the Betancourt family as pleasant people - except for the mother of the family, and here he can be trusted:

“It must be assumed that from a young age she was beautiful in herself; without one who would have ordered Betancourt to marry her when she was in a low state? And she was so arrogant that God forbid” (B, V, 13). But Betancourt was able to create a warm family atmosphere. His activity and cheerfulness were passed on to his daughters. Vigel continues his story thus:

“Fortunately, the daughters did not look like Anna Ivanovna in any way, but rather like their parent Augustin Avgustinovich... to them nature has given their charms. But they had something to replace this great loss: their every word expressed the grace of mind and heart; one could listen with admiration to them when they played the harp or piano, admiringly admire their drawings and their folk dance fandango and bolero ... Could one be surprised at the boundless tenderness of their father for them, and who would not be happy with them? (B, V, 13–14).

I am 29 years old. I still live with my parents. There was a failed and stupid marriage with a friend, after which I lost both a friend, and so on. husband. I never found myself at work. All I have to do is be different managers in different companies. Different - because I am absolutely not interested in what I do. Neither economics, nor law, nor accounting, nor sales, nor procurement, nor personnel, nor logistics - nothing brought me the niche in which I want to stay forever. All my work lasted a maximum of six months, while it was interesting and new. Then the interest abruptly disappears, and so much so that I start to get sick all the time, do not get out of the hospital, change in relations with colleagues and everything leads to mutual separation. For the last few months I have not worked at all, I have a person who understands me and somehow supports me, this is my cousin. I feel a little embarrassed, but only a little, because in 9 years I finally lost faith that I could achieve something - at least a calm and stable job in one place. Frequent transitions flicker in the labor, this scares off employers. In his personal life, he has long been a complete zero, with the exception of a few intrigues at a time. But it does not kill me so crushingly than some helplessness in financial and material terms. I sit and believe in some miracles that can suddenly happen to me, I find millions of different hobbies - some stick for a long time, some fall off. One of the hobbies I tried to make a living, and it seemed to go well at first, but then it stalled, because I have absolutely no idea how to sell myself. I tried this way and that, and attended lectures, listened to and watched webinars. Not much yet. Moreover, in life I am a very positive person, I don’t complain to anyone and don’t like to whine, my friends don’t know anything about what’s happening to me, I’m lying about something, somehow dodging, and everyone seems to believe, because no one cares , by and large. And I have some kind of complex about this, because I never ask for help, from anyone. Not at work, not anywhere. Sometimes I think if I feel bad, God forbid, on the street, I'll just die quietly, because I'm ashamed to ask for help. I have to do everything myself. But it so happened that I can no longer do anything myself, and I begin to seriously think about whether it is worth continuing to live like this. I didn’t mention - there are no children, and they are unlikely to be. And there is no one to give birth to, and health is not particularly. Maybe someone knows how to pull yourself out of the vicious circle and run away from your life, becoming someone else? Because being me is pretty exhausting.

What kind of person can be said to be "made"? and got the best answer

Answer from Artur Valiev[guru]
🙂 The question is actually very difficult.
There must be some self-deception here. After all, an accomplished person is rather not an assessment of society. And his personal attitude. Therefore, when we give an assessment to another person as "an accomplished person", we miss his personal opinion - whether he succeeded or not.
I also met those who held high positions and at the same time had eyes full of fear for their place. I also met "ordinary" workers with a confident look and firm principles. Therefore, it depends little on the position in society. True, such people have authority and their word is weighty (but it is unlikely that everyone who has authority is held).
There lived such a person - Maslow (Maslov). His pyramid of needs is known to anyone passing training in the psychology of sales. So, at the end of his life, he revised the approach to the analysis of human goals. And he brought out a new component - a self-realized person. Probably this concept comes closest to "an accomplished person." And in his last books he even lists those character traits, which may suggest that you have a self-realized person in front of you. Among them, he names as the need for solitude and falling out of society.
Probably, if you believe him, then an accomplished person is a person who seeks to leave society. Or in other words - a dead person for society.
By the way, remembering the Christian "only a lost grain can be reborn into a better life" - you understand the depth of this issue.

Answer from Vladimir Shlyakhtin[guru]
Over which they read the funeral. And if you breathe, everything is still ahead ... In my opinion, a similar question has already been (took place). Regards.

Answer from Catherine[guru]
not you have to say something, but he himself must be aware of himself as such

Answer from Isis[guru]
It seems to me that in this matter all the wisdom is in simplicity. The one who built a house, raised a son and planted a tree took place. Everyone under these simple concepts understand HIS. Even a HOUSE may not be a material, but a purely spiritual concept. So are the SON and the TREE. Everything depends entirely on the spiritual level of the person himself. For some, a solid log house with a bathhouse in the yard, a garden under the window and grown-up children are probably the highest meaning of their existence. And someone does not need it at all and his aspirations are all in music or science. And it took place right THERE.

Answer from Vladimir Anisimkov[guru]
Most likely, one can talk about a person who has already taken place only when the Personality has finally formed in him, when the basic questions of his own existence are asked and the time has come to realize himself, or rather to realize (after all, this process can easily be interrupted, due to the fragility of human life).

Answer from martian[expert]
we all notice that every thing on earth has its own purpose - and we people also have a purpose! an accomplished person is a person who moves to the top in his calling!

Answer from YATYANA[guru]
If a person is CONFIDENT in himself (not to be confused with SELF-CONFIDENCE), he is in his power. So this is a PERSON.

Answer from "@tu."[guru]
Only about the president of his country!

Answer from Yotepan Alexandrov[guru]
I can't say the same for anyone else, it's a personal assessment.

Answer from ryam***[guru]
the one who is always balanced is not in a hurry and always knows what he wants and how to achieve

Answer from User deleted[newbie]
Yes, you can’t say about anyone that that’s all - it took place. Man is a dynamic, constantly changing being, and those views and achievements that were yesterday may seem absurd to him today. I do not think that there is a final phase - "took place" or reached some level. Throughout our lives, we climb to the goal, work, gain wholesale, knowledge, as inveterate buyers say - "we level up", so that the "held" concept has become obsolete, we have no boundaries 🙂

Answer from white power[newbie]
I believe that an accomplished person is the person who has a beautiful wife, happy children, and he himself is always in business and his work!

Answer from Nyusha[guru]
It depends on the gender of the person. I am personally deeply convinced that in order to succeed a woman, she simply needs to fulfill her natural destiny (and not at 30-40 years old, but before 25 is desirable), to have a full-fledged family (although, of course, a husband may turn out to be the last reptile and here you won’t demand anything from her, it’s not your fault), devote your life to children, raise worthy people. And for a man, to get a higher education in order to then have a well-paid job, this, in turn, is necessary to create and providing for the family. That is, a man must also form a family. Well, and further, particulars. This is the main thing, in my opinion.