Ignore is the best way to bind a person to yourself: why, why and how it generally works. Is it true that ignoring is the best revenge
Hello to all fans to delve into the brain! No, I'm not talking about surgeons and pathologists, I'm talking about those who are impressed by psychology, those who don't feed bread - let's study such a complex phenomenon as a person.
Today I will touch on a slightly rare, but not at all boring topic - ignoring individuals of their own kind. We will understand why ignore - The best way bind a person. We also think about why this “method of attracting attention” is so effective.
Where do the legs grow from or why does the ignore work in the opposite direction?
Surely, many of you have heard that by ignoring a person, you can attract his attention. But at the same time, the question immediately arises: “Is this even legal?”. How it works?
Human nature is such that we are all selfish creatures! And this is an established fact, even the most altruistic people are not able to argue with the laws of nature, which work on the conscious and subconscious levels.
If we are still able to control the consciousness, then the subconscious, alas, is not.
“Why ignore a person to get attention,” you ask. After all, you can, on the contrary, try to “show yourself” in all its glory!
But the reality is that a person who is ignored, in most cases, is able to experience the feeling that he was rejected.
And then Her Majesty "Naroticism" enters the scene. Together with selfishness, this gives a nuclear mixture, prompting a person to prove his significance and importance.
This is where it begins ... The attention of the ignored to the ignored increases quite significantly. In fact, this works precisely because the ignored person wants to prove his importance, first of all, to himself - that he is needed, that he is noticed.
Therefore, we can say that such a “seduction scheme” works solely from the selfish motives of a potential victim. And considering that a person initially has a code in his subconscious to love himself, which encourages him to increase the level of his own self-sufficiency, this method works for most people.
However, it is worth considering that this method is not a magic wand and it does not guarantee one hundred percent success in attracting attention. It works under certain conditions, which I propose to get acquainted with right now.
Instructions for management: how to draw attention to yourself with the help of ignore and why is it needed at all?
To begin with, it is advisable to decide for what purpose you want to attract the attention of a certain person: to amuse your ego, play with other people's feelings, or achieve his disposition towards yourself. Everyone has their own preferences, but this law of psychology works for everyone the same.
First, don't ignore the person you want to get attention from the start. First, show that he is important to you. Otherwise, you risk scaring him away with your indifference.
After you have made it clear to him that you like him, start acting.
But do not try to flirt and douse this person with your cold attitude towards him. It is best to be polite to him: when rescheduling a meeting, tell him about it gently and express your disappointment about such a force majeure.
Secondly, do not delay ignoring! Otherwise, you will get the appropriate result - the person will lose interest in you and cool off.
It is worth ignoring only for a short time to attract attention, after which you need to act, and not continue to dynamize your potential passion (this is especially true for men, although a priori it will not act in this way).
By the way, it’s worth a little reservation that this technique does not work for all people, because some of them have a low degree. Namely, it makes a person prove his worth.
Therefore, it will be difficult to ignore the attention of a person who is absolutely violet, what others think about him and whether they even pay attention to him.
Nevertheless, this method of "seduction" should not be written off. I'm also interested in hearing your opinions and stories on this topic. On this I do not say goodbye to you, but I say: "See you soon!".
Always me - Sasha Bogdanova
Easy ignore (LI) and total ignore (TI)
Very often you have to advise total ignore (TI), and this is the only correct advice in this situation. This is a situation when a person was openly, directly rejected, rebuffed, insulted, offended, changed, preferred another / another, they said that they did not like and abandoned.
In these cases, you can not get off lightly ignored. This is a very serious, very strong imbalance, and it can only be reversed with a real shake-up, only with serious and cool actions, with a complete reboot.
Easy ignore (LI) is suitable in cases where the partner has cooled down a little, but does not say anything about it, even denies or somehow justifies his coldness - tired at work, problems in the family, etc. That's when it's appropriate to get a little behind the person, to give him air, freedom, not to call or write, not to take the initiative, but still not break off relations and positively reinforce his initiative.
Those. if a girl refuses to meet because she is tired, she is going to visit relatives, her mother has arrived, the cat is giving birth, etc., you can turn on a slight ignore. And if she said that she wants to end the relationship, because she wants to understand herself, because there are no feelings, because she fell in love with another or her betrayal was revealed, then a total ignore is needed. Not the fact that it will help, of course. But anything else will make things worse. Much worse.
TI lasts up to mega B. People often ask how to understand that this is mega B, that you can already stop ignoring and get in touch. For this, the partner's move, the closest mega should completely level the offense for which he was sent to TI. Those. if this is treason - complete repentance, a declaration of love, access to the phone, i.e. a person must ask for forgiveness and in every possible way show and prove his devotion in order to be believed again.
This seems fantastic to many, especially to those who are happy and simple "hello" from the one who left them. And it's really unlikely that a person for whom your importance has fallen enough to commit adultery or any of the above, suddenly loves you again so much. It doesn't happen all of a sudden. It is in order for this to happen that a total ignore and a serious pumping of the personality is needed. But even if this does not happen, ignoring will still remain the most right decision because there is no point in going back or staying in a relationship where your value is so low.
The degree of closeness should always be directly proportional to the significance. If the importance has fallen, then the degree of intimacy should decrease in proportion to the decrease in your importance. Yours, not your partner's. Your partner may, and probably will remain very significant for you, but you must reduce the degree of intimacy with him immediately and exactly as much as your significance has fallen. But not as much as you want. It is clear that with a significant partner you want to communicate and remain close, no matter what he says or does. I want to grab at every straw, answer every ping, look for reasons to meet, give and take things endlessly and make friends. But this will finally ruin the chances of a return, because it will be absolutely impossible to raise your significance by such actions. If a person agrees to less, he will never be offered more. If you do not agree, they may not offer it either, but at least there is a chance. And in the first case, no chance. Agreeing to intimacy when imbalanced completely takes away the chance for a balanced relationship.
How total should TI be.
It should be total in the love and intimacy area, and in no way touch on all other aspects of existence - finances, work, common property, children, etc.
Those. you can’t ignore messages about a common mortgage, your debts or about the health of common children, you need to quickly resolve all financial matters related to this person and not enter into new ones. And completely ignore everything that is not connected with this.
Every person has a certain amount of selfishness. Trying to please someone, we all expect a positive reaction. Such a mutual exchange becomes a habit and makes people dependent on other people's emotions, feelings, experiences. Discord in love / work / friendships traditionally occurs with scandals. Any quarrel is a kind of giveaway game, where everyone is led to the opponent's provocation, thereby showing their weaknesses, but at the same time trying to win. Such tactics usually lead to nervous exhaustion, constant anxiety and loss of self-esteem. Save all this will help a great technique - ignoring.
Demonstrative contempt
Proven in relationships - keep the person at a distance. If this is a man, he will definitely react to the ostentatious coldness of a woman and try to win her over, if an envious colleague, by completely ignoring him, he can be misled and forced to slow down the rivalry. With your coldness towards you, you show him your superiority. When the answer to the provocation of the ill-wisher is complete disregard, the ability to manipulate you disappears from him. This technique was used by medieval kings and politicians, because earlier all relationships were built solely on trust.
Information hunger
If you are going to lead cold war with the use of ignoring, it is important to stick to the chosen tactics. No wonder there are scouts in all defense units of the world. Do not tell your enemy about your plans, do not frighten him with threats, do not let people close to him approach you. Due to a sudden information lull, the opponent himself will begin to look for ways to get closer to you (unless, of course, he supports your “game”). Ignoring is a great way to get revenge emotional person. If your offender is one of these, feel free to use it, watching the victim's feelings from the sidelines.
Death to relationships
Close people react most of all to ignoring. Do not try in this way to point out to your dear person his mistakes, because this will not work. But such a method can lead to a complete collapse of relations. In matters of love, ignoring will be a real blow to the feelings of a partner, because he will be deprived of the coveted attention of a person he likes. In relation to loved ones, this method of revenge is more cruel than an open statement of hostility. Using ignoring, you become independent of someone else's opinion, and therefore invulnerable. However, it must be remembered that such isolation can lead to temporary loneliness, so you can use this technique only in case of emergency.
